Creating a Haven: What Homemaking Means to Me

When I think about homemaking, I think about more than just having clean counters and cooked meals. I think about the atmosphere in the home, the warmth, safety, and love. I think about living in a way that honors God and how you steward the gifts He’s entrusted to you. I think about cultivating a home that nurtures, protects, and reflects the heart of God to everyone.

This calling doesn’t always come with applause or appreciation, but it's an important and powerful position. As a wife and mom, it's my role and responsibility to create a haven for my family. A place where my family can breathe, feel seen and heard, feel safe and secure, and grow in their faith. I didn’t grow up with that kind of environment. But now, I get to break cycles and rewrite my story by creating the kind of home I’ve always wanted.

Homemaking is Building

Proverbs 14:1

“The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.”

Homemaking means building with intentionality, not just the rooms or decor in the home, but the atmosphere inside of it. What is the atmosphere you are trying to create? What is the overall feeling or mood you want in the home? Every word spoken, the tone in our voice, how we serve, every prayer over our family are all bricks we use to build. A wise woman builds and sows seeds into her family with grace, gentleness, wisdom and discernment. You can’t do it all at once or over night. It happens slowly, building brick by brick, day by day. 

Homemaking is Serving with Love

Titus 2:4-5

“…urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind…”

The Bible reminds us that loving and caring for our family is one of the most important things we can do. It’s our first ministry. It might not always feel pretty, perfect, or Instagram worthy, but it’s meaningful work. God calls us to love our families with intention and that shows up in everyday things. Homemaking isn’t just a to-do list. It's worship in your everyday life.

Think about praying over your family’s clothes as you fold them, or cooking dinner while singing along to music with your kids. My daughter and I especially love listening to crooner music in the kitchen. These moments might seem small, but they matter. They’re the kind of memories our families carry with them for a lifetime.

Homemaking is Creating Peace

Proverbs 31:27

“She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness.”

This Proverbs 31 woman is wise, intentional, and rooted. She’s observant and thorough, not because she’s perfect, but because she leads with a purpose. She brings order, peace, and care into her home. That doesn’t mean the storms of life won’t happen but she chooses to be a peacemaker in the middle of it.

Through daily devotion to God, prayer, and patience, we can create an atmosphere of peace when we bring order to our home. Pray over your home, and lead with love.

Homemaking is a Reflection of God’s Character

1 Corinthians 14:33

“For God is not a God of disorder but of peace…”

Homemaking gives us the opportunity to reflect God’s heart by creating rhythms and routines that bring peace into our space. When a home is calm and in order, everyone can slow down, feel more at ease, and closely connect with one another. It’s in the small things, like the meals made with love, the cozy blankets on the couch, the family movie nights, the silly moments when you laugh so much you lose your breath, it’s in the bedtime prayers that become the moments your family remembers most. It's in these moments we reflect the gentle and faithful character of God present, loving, and full of peace.

Homemaking is Hospitality

Romans 12:13

“Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.”

Hospitality begins at home. It’s not about perfect decor or the dust you forgot to clean up from the baseboards. Hospitality is about the open arms and hearts, it's making room for others to feel safe, valued, and seen. People will always remember how you made them feel.

Creating a home is one of the most powerful callings we have as women. It’s about presence not perfection. You're the heart of your home, the one who sets the tone, who chooses joy, who lights the candles even when the days feel dark and heavy.

Even if you didn’t grow up with this kind of haven, know that God can use you to create something new. Through Him, we can break generational patterns and build something rooted in grace, truth, and love.

Your home doesn’t have to be big. You don’t have to have it all figured out you just have to show up.